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May. 9th, 2009 05:24 pm
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Man. People are just shitty.

I mean, REALLY shitty.

What's up with all of the "I'm not happy and I see that you are, so I'm going to make you unhappy by snarking at you online" crap? Don't people have anything better to do? Seriously? Why do they have to try to make others feel as miserable as they are. It makes me so sad that their lives are so messed up. What must their parents have done to them when they were little to make them turn out that way?

Date: 2009-05-10 08:00 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] the-questess.livejournal.com
That is just awful! I can't believe those ladies! And funny, one of them is that gal who up and unfriended me after I made that really emotional post. Yeah, that right there said "really judgmental," even though she kept claiming she wasn't.

I have totally reported that to the mods.
That whole bit made ME feel really unwelcome, and I wasn't even the OP! I can't imagine how you feel. :-(
I don't follow all of the posts there, but I've never seen so much nastiness there before. Geez!

I know I wouldn't be happy with your situation, but it's not MY situation, so it doesn't matter! (Not only that, honestly I don't know the details at all, not even after reading some explanation... people should really not judge things until they've BEEN there to truly know all of the details.)
And as to this whole "OMG the poor children!" thing they're doing.... these are the same damn women who get all bitchy about how people try to tell THEM how to do things, "in the interest of the poor children."
Dood, hypocrites much?

Date: 2009-05-10 07:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amberskyfire.livejournal.com
Sorry they did that to you :( I have no idea what comes over people sometimes. I mean, do they get a seriously bad case of PMS and hate the world and then wake up the next morning going "Where am I? WHO am I? And what did I do last night? Ohh...crap!"

I always wonder how people end up like that. Did their parents do that to them? Were their parents bullies that picked on them and hurt them all the time? Or did their parents just teach them that they are supposed to treat other people like that - to put them down and verbally abuse them as much as possible in order to make them hurt. I don't get it.

Date: 2009-05-10 08:48 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lapsedmodernist.livejournal.com
ugh, who is snarking you?

Date: 2009-05-10 07:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amberskyfire.livejournal.com
I think the question is "who ISN'T snarking on me."

It's okay. They'll go away. It's not like I know them, just your usual online trolls. I guess I just needed to vent a tiny bit.

Date: 2009-05-10 01:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jennifer19.livejournal.com
wow where did all this happen???

The amazing thing about the anonymity of the internetz is that people will say the dumbest stuff because we don't _really_ know who they are IRL.

Dumb stuff. You be you. Because you're awesome.


Date: 2009-05-10 07:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amberskyfire.livejournal.com
Thanks :)

Yeah, in some parenting community which I guess is sort of the answer in itself. Parents tend to be that way which is why I don't have any as friends. They get uppity about your family being different from theirs. It's like a direct attack on their personal choices or something.

Date: 2009-05-10 04:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] inniu.livejournal.com
i just read half of the crap going on and i want to say OMFG WTF'ING F?! seriously.

it makes me want to leave the community. i cannot believe the self-rightousness and utter rudeness and complete disregard for the possibility that THEIR way may not work for everyone.

god forbid any of us have a different situation going on. must be nice that all of them have such perfect husbands!!!!!!

i hope you found something lovely to do today with your little button, and i think you rock for apparently not letting their bullshit get to you.


happy mother's day!!! (gawd!)

Date: 2009-05-10 07:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amberskyfire.livejournal.com

Yeah, I think we are going to the part to feed the giant koi. I can't wait to see the look on Aryquin's face when they come up with their big gaping mouths and eat out of her hand. What fun! The pond has concrete all the way around it and it's only about 1 foot deep, so we can lay on our tummies with our hands over the edge and feed them. It's going to be fun if it doesn't rain!

Date: 2009-05-10 04:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] yesididit.livejournal.com
instead of snark i came to wish you happy birthday and happy mothers day!

Date: 2009-05-10 07:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amberskyfire.livejournal.com
Mahalo! And a happy Mother's Day to you as well :)

Date: 2009-05-10 05:06 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nosce.livejournal.com
I nearly left that community when I read all that BS. It is so so sad that these ladies feel that was an okay thing to do, especially (hate to be all sentimental here) on Mother's Day. I mean, we're all doing our best. They don't know your situation, and the anonomity of the internet often brings out the worst in people.
I wanted to say sorry to you on their behalf, though really you deserve an apology from them. It seems to me that a few people here on LJ-land just love to target you and alienate you, and that is so unfortunate. :/
Amber, I don't know a whole lot about your life and it's hard to see the whole picture through a computer screen. I personally would have a problem if Kevin would rather spend all his free time doing things that excluded me "because he works 6/10's." We all workhard- your little girl is thoroughly exhausting if she's anything like my daughter. A marriage is a partnership and a family is a team. If you are happy where you're and it's working for the three of you than by all means keep going, mama! I think you are a really strong, amazing, talented woman who has done more for her daughter than I ever could, so you be proud of yourself and nevermind the insecurity that showed up a bazillion times on that thread. You're awesome.

Happy Mama's Day, and happy birthday, too. You rock my socks.

Date: 2009-05-10 07:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amberskyfire.livejournal.com
Thanks :) Yes, these three or four people have always attacked me personally and given me trouble, so it's not like it's new or that it really bothers me that much but DAMN, it's annoying. Like mosquitoes that keep biting the fuck out of you and you keep swatting at them, but always miss, so they come back and bite you again!

No, I love that David plays WoW. We used to always play together until I had Aryquin. Now we can't anymore because she's a handful. I don't care that he still plays, though. It's better than him going out with friends or partying or cheating on me or drinking or playing golf or any of the other things that would exclude him from our lives. No, I like having him right here next to me so we can talk all the time. We do our thing together as a family every day, too. It's not like WoW is ALL he ever does, it's just his main hobby. He loves the game and why not? I love it too :)

Date: 2009-05-10 08:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nosce.livejournal.com
Good for you, staying so calm and collected!

Kevin likes his work- and since the shop is downstairs I often find myself dragging him back into the apartment hours after he said he'd finish up. And he likes his video games. So our solution was that he worked, we all got together on the bed and read books with Iris, I nursed her to sleep while he played his games for however long in the other room. I liked that he wasn't in the apartment distracting Iris, he liked that he could play his games all he wanted. It is a good system. And by no means does it mean that my husband doesn't spend time with me or our baby, or that we don't belong in an attachment parenting community! And you are ABSOLUTELY right- games are so much better than bars, other women, or bars and other women. I would much rather have him at home playing some game and drinking a beer here, where I can holler at him to bring me a fresh burp cloth. ;)

Often times I find myself afraid to ask questions on those communities because people can be so damn snarky. It's so stupid- are they there to help people out or make them feel like idiots because they don't know/can't do something/can't buy $30 each fitted diapers/don't do things the way they do? It makes me crazy sometimes, and I regularly have to stop watching communities for a while just so I can stop bitching to Kevin about how stupid the internet is. His answer, always, of course, is to just turn the damn thing off. ...Men....

Date: 2009-05-10 08:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amberskyfire.livejournal.com
Yeah, mine says the same thing. :) Just turn it off! It's amazing how simple things can be for my hubs. And it's true. They don't know me or where I live or what my name is. That makes them anonymous and "not real people." They are just words on a computer screen.

I wish I had the option to turn REAL people off when I want to.

Date: 2009-05-10 08:13 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nosce.livejournal.com
You and me both, mama. Especially the inlaws.

Date: 2009-05-10 05:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mommakitty.livejournal.com
I did not see what was said to you, but I am truly sorry for shitty people. This is what makes me very hesitant to reply to anything in communities - people like that. The thing is that to your face they would never be that way because they probably have a sad life without any happiness and probably have nothing going for them like you do. As you say and they need to make themselves feel better by putting others down and will latch onto something small that you may say and just run with it.
Personally I think that you are great and that is why I made you one of my friends - which says a lot for me since I only have 5 and only 2 of which reply to my posts from time to time. (Hmmm maybe I need to do something about that - heh)
Anyways Happy Mothers Day and take care.

Date: 2009-05-10 07:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amberskyfire.livejournal.com
Thanks :) Here's to a great Mother's Day!

Date: 2009-05-10 05:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mommakitty.livejournal.com
By the way Happy Birthday too.
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Date: 2009-05-11 02:14 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amberskyfire.livejournal.com
Aww, thanks :) It was a great day today. Hubby's knees were not hurting as bad as normal, so he decided to spend the day with us after all. He took us to the beach (photos in a later post) and then to the park to feed the koi and then we went to the mall to get Cinnabon. It was awesome!

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! I hope you had a great one!

Date: 2009-05-15 03:31 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] imogen-blue.livejournal.com
molly-coddled & made them feel they were entitled to everything good.

they never knew there'd be bad in the world.