I nearly left that community when I read all that BS. It is so so sad that these ladies feel that was an okay thing to do, especially (hate to be all sentimental here) on Mother's Day. I mean, we're all doing our best. They don't know your situation, and the anonomity of the internet often brings out the worst in people.
I wanted to say sorry to you on their behalf, though really you deserve an apology from them. It seems to me that a few people here on LJ-land just love to target you and alienate you, and that is so unfortunate. :/
Amber, I don't know a whole lot about your life and it's hard to see the whole picture through a computer screen. I personally would have a problem if Kevin would rather spend all his free time doing things that excluded me "because he works 6/10's." We all workhard- your little girl is thoroughly exhausting if she's anything like my daughter. A marriage is a partnership and a family is a team. If you are happy where you're and it's working for the three of you than by all means keep going, mama! I think you are a really strong, amazing, talented woman who has done more for her daughter than I ever could, so you be proud of yourself and nevermind the insecurity that showed up a bazillion times on that thread. You're awesome.

Happy Mama's Day, and happy birthday, too. You rock my socks.